Anchor & Connect Coaching, LLC
Evidence-based tools to move you from relationship anxiety to an anchored life.
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Did you know that your attachment style isn't just about how you LOVE - it's about how you interpret EVERYTHING?
Yes! Attachment styles are survival strategies developed during childhood, that influence every facet of life, from money, to careers, to personal characteristics & interpersonal dynamics.
I help high-functioning individuals "get out of their own way" by charting healthy solutions that improve overall quality of life.
- Anchor: Stop the emotional tidal wave & regulate your nervous system in order to make healthy decisions.
- Connect: Move from hyper-vigilance to authentic high-resolution intimacy that fulfills everyone's needs.
- Lead: Command your own life with clarity, awareness & absolute intention.
Captain's log
The internal, and sometimes, external emotional turbulence of the Fearful Avoidant seemed to never fail in resurfacing triggers that I thought had long been buried at sea.
They all use the same Siren's Song to draw you closer, but while the melody is similar, the destination is different. So how do you distinguish a safe harbor from a shipwreck? The answer lies in the INTENTION.
I admit. I am drawn to partners with an avoidant attachment style - especially the dismissive avoidants (DA). it just felt easier to request closeness, than to constantly push away an anxiously attached partner, always clamoring for attention or validation. An avoidant partner will usually fulfill the request - provided that it didn't get TOO close - a tradeoff I was once willing to endure. My own avoidant side feared engulfment, so having a partner who was more stoic 'saved' energy. However, that illusion of peace wasn't calm seas, but a total lack of wind. Without the wind to fill the sails, there was no motion. This type of dynamic wasn't sailing me into the sunset, or even keeping me safe in the harbor, it was keeping me dry-docked.
